Do you ever fall into the trap of hearing yourself say ‘I can’t’? It’s something that we all do, it’s just that some of us do it more than others. If you can tell yourself to think in a more positive way and overcome those nagging negative thoughts, you’ll be amazed at the difference it can have on both your personal and professional life.
So how do you approach changing your mindset to a more positive one?
The good news is that it’s a technique that you can learn and apply. Here are a few actions that you can try right away, starting today in fact, that will help you on the road to positive thinking.
First of all memorise this phrase: “Don’t count every hour in a day – make every hour count.” What does that mean? In essence it means taking a positive approach is always more productive and that’s a great place to start.
Second, consider this: ‘Attitudes are more important than facts.’ Our attitude is ingrained in us, it’s in the way we think, the way we speak, the way we present ourselves and how we use our body language. The number one fear of people in general is rejection and the number one need is to feel accepted. Adopting a positive approach helps to feed the need of being accepted.
Learning positive thinking techniques takes patience, skill and determination. In order to take full advantage of this skill you really need expert guidance which is often delivered by attending positive thinking workshop sessions and one-to-one coaching. At Eat the Elephant for example, we use a combination of both methods on our Positive Thinking programmes. Working in groups provides support and interaction with other like-minded individuals and the one-to-one coaching helps to keep you on track, identify where you need further support, and enables you to revisit your original goals and evaluate and measure progress.
This approach to learning positive thinking is proven and it works. On a recent programme we delivered one HR Manager had this to say about it just a week after attending:
“I am in a much better place this week and my positive levels today are 9 – 10. (Based on a 1-10 scale) I have tackled everything that I thought about and wrote down by giving myself a good talking to and taking action. It was brilliant – you came into my life just at the right time!!”
Did you know that 97% of all our behaviours are automatic, they just happen. We’re just wired up to keep on doing what we have always done. To change those behaviours requires a conscious effort, you’ll need to work at it using written reminders and physical actions to help you make the required behavioural changes.
Then there’s the psychological principle. ‘What you name the ‘thing’ the ‘thing’ tends to become.’ Think about specific things and people in your life, your boss, someone who works with you, your own habits and experiences and you’ll soon see what I mean!
Something that you can work on immediately is to start talking yourself in a positive way – either out loud or self-talk in your head. Use these 3 steps to help you:
- Think – don’t react
- Become a ‘how’ thinker not an ‘if’ thinker
- Believe you can and you can
If you’re feeling really up for change, start to create your own positive results cycle too. I’m talking here about the fact that positive thoughts lead to positive emotions which lead to positive behaviours and they lead to positive results.
And finally remember ‘positive in’ means ‘positive out’. By this I mean that if you have a positive attitude and positive behaviour others are more likely to respond to you an equally positive manner.
So there you have it, a quick insight into how you can start developing a positive thinking approach right now!